Safe Boundaries:

 How to be firm but fair & creating rules with care


'Children need to feel safe. Boundaries help them feel safe and loved.'

Somerset Parent



Children thrive on firm but fair boundaries and consistent, loving approaches to discipline. Children and young people need boundaries and limits to feel safe. But setting and enforcing them is tricky, especially if you are trying to avoid threats and bribes. Harsh discipline that makes your child fearful is no good for you or your child.  Whenever you can, be clear about what is allowed and what's not. Limits are needed even in the most loving relationships.


Think about:

  • Be clear about boundaries and expectations

  • Explain why you are setting a limit  

  • Be consistent about the things that happen on a daily basis such as bedtimes, mealtimes, how much time is allowed watching TV or playing video games.

  • When setting a specific boundary, kneel down to your child’s level, look them in the eyes, and tell them in simple words what you expect. This way, it is crystal clear that your message has been calmly sent and received.

  • Always be prepared to make time to discuss the reasons why you have set a particular boundary but beyond this, stand firm.

  • Parents should discuss and agree boundaries and limits together and support each other to put them in place. 

For more ideas for helping you to set safe boundaries take a look at the: Positive Parenting Guide.pdf