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Examples of behaviour
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- You, as parents, talk and listen to each other.
- You are equal, co-operative in your relationship, you work as a team.
- Your relationship is balanced.
- You may have regular disagreements, but you are able to resolve arguments and move on together.
- You can forgive each other following an argument and move on.
- You both have the skills to resolve your conflict so that you are both equally happy with the outcome and allow your partner’s perspectives and feelings, allowing for compromise.
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Do you recognise any of these?
- You regularly argue and have rows, shouting all the time at each other about things like money, how tired/fed up you are, how you parent or housework.
- You feel there is a lack of warmth or emotional connection in your relationship.
- You may regularly regret being in your relationship.
- You may not feel listened to, and you may not feel that your partner values your opinion.
- You can’t say sorry after an argument and move on.
- You don’t feel you have the energy or skills to resolve your ongoing arguments. But this isn’t because you feel afraid or manipulated.
- You have lost your focus on your children and become inconsistent in your parenting because of ongoing disagreements?
- However, you don’t feel there is an imbalance of power in your relationship and neither of you seeks to control the other.
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- There is a power imbalance.
- One or both parents reported being afraid.
- Physical, emotional, and sexual violence
- Jealous and coercive controlling behaviours, including short temper, extreme anger and jealousy, name-calling, “mind games”, constantly checking up on partner, excessively phone/texting partner.
- Emotional abuse
- Stalking & harassment behaviours
- Presence of degrading or humiliating behaviours
- “Honour” based violence and/or features of forced marriage.
- Behaviour in a relationship is seen as “abusive” if it consists of any of the following:
- physical or sexual abuse
- Violent or threatening behaviour
- Controlling or coercive behaviour
- Economic abuse
- Psychological, emotional or other abuse
More details:
What is domestic abuse? (somersetsurvivors.org.uk)
If there is evidence of domestic abuse:
Somerset Domestic Abuse to Support helpline: 0800 6949 999
Somerset Integrated Domestic Abuse
Open Hours: 8 AM-8 PM Monday- Sunday
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